The whole awful parent thing is always so touchy for me given my Maryesque mother. I feel bad for people like M-M or Derf yet I am beyond frustrated by their behavior. One day it clicked for me that there is a difference between using the past to explain a current situation and using the past to justify the propriety of a current situation. In other words I totally get how they turned out the way they did but I also accept that who they are isn't necessarily who they were destined to be. The only thing stopping M-M from being lazy and self obsessed at this point is M-M. She and Derf seem the type that are too busy stuck being victims to even try to reframe themselves as survivors. I'd say the same for Seabsicuit too.
Exactly!! I hate it when people use their bad childhood as an excuse for their adult behavior and to ward off any criticism. My mother was Maryesque as well. Their (MM, Sea Biscuit, Frodo) traumatic past never seems to get in the way when they want to lie to the public, constantly ditch their kids, holiday, waste the tax payer's dime like there is no tomorrow, be snobby and treat others like crap, etc...
It's just pure selfishness and narcissism. Trauma doesn't magically disappear and reappear at very convenient moments for people who are genuinely suffering from their past - they also don't skip work to frequently go on holidays and go on spending sprees at every opportunity.
Martha-Louise was probably the costume designer!