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[Diogenes]

I'm very busy, just popping in to say that my daughter and I are doing quite a bit better. She's put in a little more effort and so have I. It's nice to be able to talk to her without her flying off the handle. There's always hope.

Kudos, karma!  Well done!

[Lady Liebe]

I'm very busy, just popping in to say that my daughter and I are doing quite a bit better. She's put in a little more effort and so have I. It's nice to be able to talk to her without her flying off the handle. There's always hope.

Kudos, karma!  Well done!

Good for you both Karma!

 

[fairy]

Reading your posts Karma and Paulina and others gives me shivers. I still hope that it is just a phase and she will come out of it. We still do things together, like watching movies, going on trips and sharing fun videos etc. It is just that I walk on egg shells, pathetically happy when everything goes well and desperately anxious to set off some trigger...
I have no words of wisdom for either Paulina or you Karma, I feel with you, I can see myself in that situation and I have no idea what to do. Obviously I do sent all of you a huge cyber hug. Let's continue to hang in there for our girls...

[karma chamelion]

Fairy It IS just a phase, a normal thing teenagers go through. Just try not to walk on eggshells too much, try to tune it out until it passes. It's nothing you can do anything about other than stand your ground and refuse to be disrespected while she's getting herself figured out.

Past and recent trauma is really making it hard for my daughter to deal with things. I get it, but I wish she respected and appreciated me more because she is really taking her frustration out on me right now. I was always the fun, open and loving parent who would do anything for my kids, bought them cell phones, took them to rock concerts, etc. But I was never an authoritarian figure, largely because my ex-husband was to an extreme. If I could go back and change that I would be firmer with more boundaries.

We're talking now, she's being more friendly and open. I've just been quiet and let her stew, she starts to miss me I think. I remember reading in one of Laura Ingalls' books a saying: 'least said, soonest mended'. It's served me well over the years.

[cordtx]

I haven’t wanted to say too much. But just like I apologized to my mother after I had children and understood her more- my daughters have done the same to me. I hope it gets better.

[Paulina]

I'm very busy, just popping in to say that my daughter and I are doing quite a bit better. She's put in a little more effort and so have I. It's nice to be able to talk to her without her flying off the handle. There's always hope.

That’s great news! Encouraging. My daughter and I went to my friends for the last four days. Her daughter is the same age. They hung out. But my daughter and I didn’t speak until the third day. And today she’s a grouch again, back home. Asking to suddenly change high schools bc her two friends she gets in trouble with won’t be at school. One is maybe in another state now and the others parents made him transfer to another local high school. Now she suddenly needs a new school, but not any of the other local ones I suggested. 400 kids in the grade and she can’t make new friends??

I think if she transferred, she’d bring her problems with her. But she’s back to being hostile, blaming b****, so there is no discussion with her. I want to tell her to suck it up, change her attitude, join something, and look at the kids who might be nice and a good influence and seek them out.

Sadly, I suspect my girl has a partying, bad grades, too cool for school,  slutty reputation.

16. God, I thought 14 and 15 were long years.