Heartbreaking. My prayers go out to them.
We need to discuss child death, stillbirth, etc, but I think it is a bit tacky to show such intimate - honestly staged - photos for your social media but that is the world we live in. Maybe though it will cause people to be more open about grief, miscarriage, stillbirth, things we hide and do not speak of. Many many women have miscarriages. We still don't talk about it. (I have had 2 - I do not talk about them because I feel people are insensitive and do not care.)
Ellie, I wish I could get into a time machine and give you a hug big enough to help make the pain more bearable. For those of my friends who went through miscarriages and chose to share, we were there for them for as much as they allowed us to be. With others, we only found out after they felt they were able to cope. Could we have provided more support? Yes. Did we care? Most definitely, yes. In some instances where pregnancies in a group of friends were concurrent, the mothers of babies who survived, experienced guilt for being granted the gift of life when it was wrenched from some-one else who deserved and cherished it no less - a form of survivor's guilt. In one case, the mother who had lost her baby was asked to be a god-mother to the child who survived - the shared child. It was meant to be an act of love. The god-mother saw it as such.
I think with every grieve people have their different methods to cope with it.
Some are staying at home and don't want to see anybody, but are going out and literally drink their sorrows away.
Whatever helps them, is good.
We're not hereto judge anyone. Especially not, if it's something no one of us can relate too, if we haven't experienced it ourselves.
