We have a big family and usually all get together, this year we're just staying within our immediate family groups. It'll be weird but hopefully it'll keep us all safe and healthy so next year we won't be missing anyone around the table.
My cousin and I do Thanksgiving and our other cousin does Xmas. We have the biggest houses and like to cook. Our parents have all passed but we work to keep the big family traditions going. I'm an only child and so is my cousin, so this year it's just us, her daughter, her husband and his mother. I'll really miss the big Xmas party but no way would I be comfortable with 70 or so people even if they are my nearest and dearest.
We were discussing the menu and we were off and running when we realized instead of 30+ we only had to do for 7 or 8. No need for 2 turkey's and a ham along with a dozen or more side dishes....but wait what to cut

we gotta have mayemaye's holiday salad and my mom's cranberry salsa, mashed potatoes or mac/cheese, mexicali corn or hashbrown casserole, green beans or broccolli, yams or brussell sprouts....the mind reels. Such 1st world problems, sure shows how much I have to be thankful for.