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I have always thought of Kate as a somewhat anxious perfectionist. She is always trying so hard to do the right thing, to be dressed appropriately and to put no foot wrong. She knows she is constantly subject to immense scrutiny and every clothing choice, every physical gesture, every word from her mouth and every parenting choice she makes will be on constant view and will also be dissected and parsed and splashed over every tabloid. So she maintains a high level of exquisite control.
There's a toll to be paid for constantly striving for this kind of perfection. It seems to me it must surround her every choice with a great deal of stress. And eventually that stress will somatize. Now I don't know what it is that has laid her low, but I'm willing to bet that this kind of stress has played a huge part. Yes she has an army of helpers and yes she has access to all kinds of wonderful high fashion, and yes she gets to go to a lot of cool places and always gets the best seats in the house. But still, I think she's been stretched to the max over the past couple of years, what with the Queen's illness and death, her father-in-law's elevation to the throne, the high-visibility events relating to the coronation, and, on top of it all, her needs/desires to be the role model quintessential good parent, raising three children who are incredibly important to the nation.
So I think something just snapped and I'm not necessarily speaking about mental health at all. Something in her body said ``time out RIGHT NOW.'' And she had no choice but to comply.
But now there's all that awful tabloid speculation about dire things being wrong either with her or her marriage. And, being the perfectionist she is, and knowing that every hair on her head and thread covering her body will be scrutinized and deconstructed, she's got to be really apprehensive about making any public appearances before she's got every single thing back under control. And unfortunately that sensibility may in in fact affect her recovery. It's kind of a damned if she does and damned if she doesn't situation. Plus, I'm sure she's got to be anxious about Charles, about what negative health news from Charles could mean for her every day family life,. and how her kids are coping with all of this. I DO NOT ENVY HER ONE SINGLE BIT.
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It is possible that the new stress of being the Princess of Wales, among other things, told her body to slooowww down. I don't know anything about ulcers, but they usually don't require surgery, right? She seems like a very nice woman and wonderful mum. Here's to hoping the best for her!  |
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It is possible that the new stress of being the Princess of Wales, among other things, told her body to slooowww down. I don't know anything about ulcers, but they usually don't require surgery, right? She seems like a very nice woman and wonderful mum. Here's to hoping the best for her! Ulcers aren’t stress related - that myth was scotched in the 1990s. Bacterial, treated with antibiotics. |
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I have always thought of Kate as a somewhat anxious perfectionist. She is always trying so hard to do the right thing, to be dressed appropriately and to put no foot wrong. She knows she is constantly subject to immense scrutiny and every clothing choice, every physical gesture, every word from her mouth and every parenting choice she makes will be on constant view and will also be dissected and parsed and splashed over every tabloid. So she maintains a high level of exquisite control.
There's a toll to be paid for constantly striving for this kind of perfection.
... and all of the rest of your post not quoted here.  Just let the woman recover. She has family and friends whom she can lean on. Despite all the chatter about 'work' she's done an awful lot in her time with the RF, learning her role, performing duties, taking up causes. With the current incessant commenting on her desire to remain quiet during recovery, too bad people. You have no right to know. Get over it. [I'm done.] |
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I have always thought of Kate as a somewhat anxious perfectionist. She is always trying so hard to do the right thing, to be dressed appropriately and to put no foot wrong. She knows she is constantly subject to immense scrutiny and every clothing choice, every physical gesture, every word from her mouth and every parenting choice she makes will be on constant view and will also be dissected and parsed and splashed over every tabloid. So she maintains a high level of exquisite control.
There's a toll to be paid for constantly striving for this kind of perfection.
... and all of the rest of your post not quoted here. Just let the woman recover. She has family and friends whom she can lean on. Despite all the chatter about 'work' she's done an awful lot in her time with the RF, learning her role, performing duties, taking up causes. With the current incessant commenting on her desire to remain quiet during recovery, too bad people. You have no right to know. Get over it. [I'm done.] Yep. It’s been feeling as though Twitter trolls have been allowed to enter minds in this space… |
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Yep. It’s been feeling as though Twitter trolls have been allowed into this space…
That seems like an unfair slight against the members of this board. I don’t think I’ve seen anyone complaining about Kate’s absence here. People have commented in general about her work ethic and the fine line between privacy and transparency, but everyone here seems to understand that Kensington Palace released a statement in January and they’re following it. |
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“And she will keep coming back to life, over and over again, because beneath the skin of this gentle human lives a warrior unstoppable.” - Annabelle M. Ramos
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Yep. It’s been feeling as though Twitter trolls have been allowed into this space…
That seems like an unfair slight against the members of this board. I don’t think I’ve seen anyone complaining about Kate’s absence here. People have commented in general about her work ethic and the fine line between privacy and transparency, but everyone here seems to understand that Kensington Palace released a statement in January and they’re following it. In this one-page thread, certainly- but we’ve had days and days now of “lazy Kate” and cynicism that simply don’t sound like BAU. I’m worried that the twitter trolls are starting to take some effect on everyday people’s opinions… |
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I have always thought of Kate as a somewhat anxious perfectionist. She is always trying so hard to do the right thing, to be dressed appropriately and to put no foot wrong. She knows she is constantly subject to immense scrutiny and every clothing choice, every physical gesture, every word from her mouth and every parenting choice she makes will be on constant view and will also be dissected and parsed and splashed over every tabloid. So she maintains a high level of exquisite control.
There's a toll to be paid for constantly striving for this kind of perfection. It seems to me it must surround her every choice with a great deal of stress. And eventually that stress will somatize. Now I don't know what it is that has laid her low, but I'm willing to bet that this kind of stress has played a huge part. Yes she has an army of helpers and yes she has access to all kinds of wonderful high fashion, and yes she gets to go to a lot of cool places and always gets the best seats in the house. But still, I think she's been stretched to the max over the past couple of years, what with the Queen's illness and death, her father-in-law's elevation to the throne, the high-visibility events relating to the coronation, and, on top of it all, her needs/desires to be the role model quintessential good parent, raising three children who are incredibly important to the nation.
So I think something just snapped and I'm not necessarily speaking about mental health at all. Something in her body said ``time out RIGHT NOW.'' And she had no choice but to comply.
But now there's all that awful tabloid speculation about dire things being wrong either with her or her marriage. And, being the perfectionist she is, and knowing that every hair on her head and thread covering her body will be scrutinized and deconstructed, she's got to be really apprehensive about making any public appearances before she's got every single thing back under control. And unfortunately that sensibility may in in fact affect her recovery. It's kind of a damned if she does and damned if she doesn't situation. Plus, I'm sure she's got to be anxious about Charles, about what negative health news from Charles could mean for her every day family life,. and how her kids are coping with all of this. I DO NOT ENVY HER ONE SINGLE BIT.
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It is possible that the new stress of being the Princess of Wales, among other things, told her body to slooowww down. I don't know anything about ulcers, but they usually don't require surgery, right? She seems like a very nice woman and wonderful mum. Here's to hoping the best for her! Ulcers aren’t stress related - that myth was scotched in the 1990s. Bacterial, treated with antibiotics. SOME ulcers aren't stress related. I've had them since I was 7, and I can assure you mine are stress related. I had another AFTER taking the antibiotic for H. pylori, after which I also developed several minor auto-immune conditions. I really wish I had my H. pylori back. I think speculation is useless; they'll tell us eventually what happened. |
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I haven't seen anyone here say she is lazy. If anything there has been fair discussion about the media and social media reaction to her much needed and understood absence from public life and that inevitably strays into discussion about her work load. If anything tbh that seems much more pointed at William than at Catherine.
KP are sticking to what they said and aren't letting the social media drama make them stray from that. I think that is commendable (and IMO the right thing to do) but I also think it is fair for people to discuss whether that is the right thing to do or not.
I agree wholeheartedly that Catherine must be under immense stress given her royal life and the press surrounding her. That she has carried on so well for so many years is a credit to her, and shows her steely determination. Others have tried and failed to cope with the pressure. Her health concerns now are of course physical health related and not almost certainly not caused by stress but I can also understand fully William's decision to protect her and keep her away from any royal duties and royal drama while she recovers as no doubt a good rest without any stress or strain will mean a quicker, more healthy recovery.
I have no doubt that she will be back after Easter as KP said she would.
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It is possible that the new stress of being the Princess of Wales, among other things, told her body to slooowww down. I don't know anything about ulcers, but they usually don't require surgery, right? She seems like a very nice woman and wonderful mum. Here's to hoping the best for her! Ulcers aren’t stress related - that myth was scotched in the 1990s. Bacterial, treated with antibiotics. SOME ulcers aren't stress related. I've had them since I was 7, and I can assure you mine are stress related. I had another AFTER taking the antibiotic for H. pylori, after which I also developed several minor auto-immune conditions. I really wish I had my H. pylori back. I think speculation is useless; they'll tell us eventually what happened. Interesting that you mention ulcers! They and other awful conditions can be a knock-on effect of severe morning sickness 🥺 |
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It is possible that the new stress of being the Princess of Wales, among other things, told her body to slooowww down. I don't know anything about ulcers, but they usually don't require surgery, right? She seems like a very nice woman and wonderful mum. Here's to hoping the best for her! Ulcers aren’t stress related - that myth was scotched in the 1990s. Bacterial, treated with antibiotics. SOME ulcers aren't stress related. I've had them since I was 7, and I can assure you mine are stress related. I had another AFTER taking the antibiotic for H. pylori, after which I also developed several minor auto-immune conditions. I really wish I had my H. pylori back. I think speculation is useless; they'll tell us eventually what happened. Interesting that you mention ulcers! They and other awful conditions can be a knock-on effect of severe morning sickness 🥺 I’ve been wondering if the surgery was done to repair damage to her digestive track fron three rough pregnancies. Additionally, many years ago it came out that Kate, her mother, and sister had become acolytes of the “Dukan Diet”. It was a diet that leaned heavily on seafood and when her struggles with the George pregnancy came out there were quite a few experts that said that particular diet would only exacerbate the stomach and HG issues she was suffering from. Between the HG and potentially years on a fad diet so reliant on fish I’m sure ulcers and stomach problems are an extremely likely possibility. |
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In this one-page thread, certainly- but we’ve had days and days now of “lazy Kate” and cynicism that simply don’t sound like BAU. I’m worried that the twitter trolls are starting to take some effect on everyday people’s opinions…
Kate has been called lazy on this board since 2011. Her and William’s work ethic has always been a topic of discussion on this board. |
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In this one-page thread, certainly- but we’ve had days and days now of “lazy Kate” and cynicism that simply don’t sound like BAU. I’m worried that the twitter trolls are starting to take some effect on everyday people’s opinions…
Kate has been called lazy on this board since 2011. Her and William’s work ethic has always been a topic of discussion on this board. Exactly. How quickly we forgot the salad days of “Chompers” and “Chutters” early married days. Back then it was “The Queen wants them to relive her early years on Malta…they’ll step up. William isn’t even the heir…” …. |
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